Many I's In Me
I tremble as Older reveals her mystery -
There are many I's in me -
All beholder and what I see
May none of them be the judge of me
Welcome to Many I's In Me Part 2 - From Surviving To Thriving!
In Part 1 - The Courage to Feel, I talked about the judgment I, the young child placed on I, the early adolescent. I encourage you to read part 1 now if you haven't already or if you would like a refresher.
Now I will tell you about another judgment among the many I's of me, the consequences of this judgment, and the benefit of releasing it.
I, the mid-life adult, judged the I, the young adult's, passion for romance to be the cause of all my past, present, and future suffering, and so locked it into a box with no intention of release.
In doing so, I, the mid-life adult, created a block, specifically, an assumption block.
A block is something that restricts you. An assumption block is created by the belief that what has happened will happen again.
What had happened was a string of toxic romantic relationships, each resulting in devastating emotional, psychological, and spiritual wounds for all the I's in me.
I, the mid-life adult assumed that continuing to pursue romantic relationships would bring more of the same.
Recall from Part 1:
All of the I's in me have lived peacefully and happily ever since - until recently,
A newcomer, I, the second-half-of-life adult, has found the key to the lock box and is circulating a petition for clemency, which as you might imagine, is seriously rocking my boat.
How can coaching steady the boat?
If I were coaching a client on clearing the assumption block, I would ask, "What's different about you now from you then?"
The answer to this question for me is that my intent is different.
Previously, I wanted a romantic relationship to heal my wounds, to fill the hole I felt inside, and to bring me joy that I believed I could not experience within myself. Now I heal my wounds. I have experienced joy within myself that I had not known possible.
My life is rich, but now I want it to be richer. My intent now is to live life fully with every part of myself.
All the I's in me are happy to tell you that the petition for clemency circulated by I, the second-half-of-life adult, has been signed unanimously.
What is the benefit of releasing this assumption block?
Well, I'll tell you. The last obstacle on my path from surviving to thriving has dissolved. I am, for the first time in 17 years, open to having a romantic relationship.
How about you?
Is there a situation from your past that you fear experiencing again?
Do you avoid the possibility of being in the same situation because you assume the experience will be the same?
If so, what is different about you now from you then?
How does this new you change the possible outcomes ?
As always, I would love to hear your thoughts! Write to me!
Joyce Collins is a life coach who specializes in helping women who were sexually abused as a child to transform themselves into confident women who love themselves and lead fulfilling lives.